Your Secret Self: How Identity Shapes Relationships
Description
The Road Map to Love
Patriarchy Stole My Power and Now I'm Gonna Take it Back!
Digging Up Negative Dating Patterns
The Mama's Boy Myth
The Majority of "Dating Crimes" Are In Our Heads
The Dating Chase
The Physics of Relationships
Dating While "Fat"
Men Are Hardwired to Cheat And Other Silly Stories
The Conservative Backlash Towards Attempts to Liberate Relationships
Seeking to Change Your Partner
Sluts Studs And Straightjaket Sexuality
Yep, seconded. Although it’s more complicated for me because I am more or less attracted based on what’s in the head of the person (cis men trust issues, yo). I guess if someone isn’t a woman (cis or trans) they’re less attractive to me – I don’t know how to say that in a non-icky way, sorry – and straight cis men are probably the least attractive to me on the whole. So… I do care about gender. I don’t know. It’s complicated, I guess. And it’s also why I tend to say “homoflexible” when asked about my orientation.
Yeah, the definition I gave is the one-liner I use for a quick explanation, but in reality things break down differently. For example, I’ve started thinking of myself as bisexual, but probably homoromantic. The number of cis-het men who get it when I talk about sexism/racism/homphobia, or who don’t get awkward when I talk about teaching women’s studies is really low. Sleeping with them is fine, but that’s not what I want in a long term partner.
Also, I don’t think it’s icky to say that if someone isn’t a woman you’re not attracted to them. Why would it be?
@ashurredly
Yep. Same here, really. Also, I’m on the ace spectrum, so… I don’t know. It just feels like too much of an effort to actually turn my attraction switch on (so to speak, I’m oversimplifying massively) for someone who’s never really going to get where I’m coming from on things that are incredibly close to my heart. The thought of dating cis men (much less the straight ones) just feels like wading through a sea of Schroedinger’s Assholes to me.
mac, I hear you. I’m simplifying things for myself here too, so I think I get where you’re coming from. Things are rarely easy, yeah?
Patriarchy Stole My Power and Now I'm Gonna Take it Back!
Digging Up Negative Dating Patterns
The Mama's Boy Myth
The Majority of "Dating Crimes" Are In Our Heads
The Dating Chase
The Physics of Relationships
Dating While "Fat"
Men Are Hardwired to Cheat And Other Silly Stories
The Conservative Backlash Towards Attempts to Liberate Relationships
Seeking to Change Your Partner
Sluts Studs And Straightjaket Sexuality
Yep, seconded. Although it’s more complicated for me because I am more or less attracted based on what’s in the head of the person (cis men trust issues, yo). I guess if someone isn’t a woman (cis or trans) they’re less attractive to me – I don’t know how to say that in a non-icky way, sorry – and straight cis men are probably the least attractive to me on the whole. So… I do care about gender. I don’t know. It’s complicated, I guess. And it’s also why I tend to say “homoflexible” when asked about my orientation.
Yeah, the definition I gave is the one-liner I use for a quick explanation, but in reality things break down differently. For example, I’ve started thinking of myself as bisexual, but probably homoromantic. The number of cis-het men who get it when I talk about sexism/racism/homphobia, or who don’t get awkward when I talk about teaching women’s studies is really low. Sleeping with them is fine, but that’s not what I want in a long term partner.
Also, I don’t think it’s icky to say that if someone isn’t a woman you’re not attracted to them. Why would it be?
@ashurredly
Yep. Same here, really. Also, I’m on the ace spectrum, so… I don’t know. It just feels like too much of an effort to actually turn my attraction switch on (so to speak, I’m oversimplifying massively) for someone who’s never really going to get where I’m coming from on things that are incredibly close to my heart. The thought of dating cis men (much less the straight ones) just feels like wading through a sea of Schroedinger’s Assholes to me.
mac, I hear you. I’m simplifying things for myself here too, so I think I get where you’re coming from. Things are rarely easy, yeah?
Début de l'événement
25.12.2022
Fin de l'événement
25.12.2022